The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.Blake Lively
So many people view selfies as the epitome of narcissism, but selfies are not only for narcissists. Perhaps for some it may be, however for others, selfies may also be an opportunity to explore and express one’s self in a new and different way.
Selfies can be a way of becoming more comfortable in our bodies and with ourselves. They can also be a way to see ourselves more clearly. For example, Jane hadn’t realized how little she smiled and how serious she looked until she saw herself in selfies.
Through experimentation with selfies, and the intention to shift this, she became more in touch with her inner child and was able to smile more.
Having Fun With Selfies
Selfies can also be a way to catalogue one’s experiences and to tell a story about one’s self. Have you ever wanted to travel the world? You can easily edit yourself into various backgrounds and places all over the world, without leaving your home. Or, experiment even just around your own town.
Take pictures of yourself in front of landmarks, or in front of places that mean something to you. You can create a photo album online and then have it printed. This is your chance to make the story book that you’ve always dreamt of – the fairy tale with you as the star!
Or, use your selfies to take on a new personality. Always wondered how it would be to be a blonde, or to be a flapper, or a Spanish conquistador? Find some inexpensive options at a thrift store or Halloween store, and then take your own pictures; no one will know but you!
Valuing What You See In Your Selfie
Of course, we can also use selfies as a chance to do some deeper emotional work. Here’s a fun way to experience this:
01Selfie in hand (or next to you), close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
02Then, take a look at your selfie, as if you were seeing yourself for the first time. Notice all of the wonderful things about you – your amazing hair, the sparkle in your eyes, mouth, cheeks, how everything works together in perfect harmony.
03Allow yourself to fall in love with you, experiencing deep awe and wonder for the perfection of you. You are the only you that will ever be, and how wonderful you are!
04Whenever any negative thoughts come up about things that you want to change about yourself, simply return to the idea that you are already perfect and wonderful, just the way you are.
05You might even want to repeat this affirmation from Louise Hay: I love myself exactly as I am. I no longer wait to be perfect in order to love myself.
(See my article for more tips for having fun with selfies.)
My wish for you today is that you love the smile you see in the mirror!
---- Kathleen Dwyer Blair, LCSW, BCD, Director.