Whatever you fear most has no power – it is your fear that has the powerOprah
Often what is at the heart of not living the life one wants is fear, anxiety, and/or a sense of inadequacy. Sometimes we let real or imagined obstacles stand in the way of living the life we really want. We don’t let ourselves experience the life that is as filling, expansive, and three-dimensional as it could be.
Being Honest With Ourselves: Facing Our Demons In The Mirror
One of the first steps to determining whether you are living the life you desire is to examine and evaluate your current lifestyle.
When we learn to look at our lives head on, our fear and discontent cannot survive.
Tune in to what you are doing and not doing, what you are feeling and not feeling. Are you longing for something different or more? What is it that you may be missing or need, to feel joy?
If you are struggling coming up with your own list, here are some ideas to try:
- Schedule a half hour per week for yourself. This is just “you” time – no chores, no electronics, no books, no interruptions.
- Go to a calm place, perhaps a park, or a spot in your house (when everyone else is gone), and just sit for a while.
- There are no requirements for this time. If you would like to meditate, that’s fine, too.
- Anything you do during this time is perfectly all right, as long as it is just for you. As Wayne Dyer says, "Be still and know."
Explore a few different options: Go to new classes or fun runs or anything else that just sort of catches your eye – don’t worry about whether it will turn into a life-long habit or even for the next month. Just go out and explore.
Find more tips in my article at: Living The Life You Deserve On Long Island.
My wish for you today is that you find one thing that you enjoy doing, just for you!Kathleen Dwyer Blair, LCSW, BCD, Director