The way we view and treat, grieving people is changing due to a variety of recent research studies that contradict some of our most tightly held beliefs.
For example, they clearly support the notion that there is no "right or wrong" way to grieve and that Dr. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross's long-held bereavement "stages" (e.g. denial, anger, bargaining, etc.) simply cannot be applied to everyone.
These studies, which are cited in Lybi Ma's Psychology Today article, Good Grief: Coping After Loss, also say that men usually grieve differently than women, repressed grief (not denial) may not be such a bad thing, and that "people who suffer abrupt loss can find the second year of bereavement harder than the first."
This is a worthwhile read if you're interested in this topic and even better, you'll find great tips for helping a grieving family member or friend.
By Kathleen Dwyer-Blair, LCSW, BCD, Director.
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