 What do truly happy, successful people have in common?
They all have a mentor or therapist! They don't attempt to be a "lone ranger." They understand the value of having a therapist. They are the first to admit that without their therapist, they would not be where they are today. Just imagine what your life would be like today if you had someone to counsel you a year ago.
Is there an objective person you can always count on to counsel you in life?
Who do you turn to when you need answers? Are you living your life from the highest level of thinking and action? Who do you discuss your concerns and uncertainties with? Are you waiting for the day that you can finally begin to enjoy your life? Are there times when you feel you are doing all you can, and yet, it just isn't enough? Rest assured you are not alone. Talking to people at work may put you at risk. Talking to family members who are emotionally involved with you may prevent them from hearing you clearly; they may bring their own agenda to the situation. There is enormous value in talking through your ideas, problems, feelings, issues and desires with a therapist who understands you and is subjective enough to want the best for you, yet objective enough not to be biased or self-serving.
 You may be wondering... What is Therapy and why does it work?
Counseling is a profession that has synthesized the best from psychology, therapy, communications, consulting, philosophy and spirituality. Your licensed, trained therapist takes on a bird's-eye view of your entire life. Have you ever noticed how easy it is to give a friend sound advice? This is usually because we are not vested in the issue and the bigger picture is easier to see. Your therapist can help you identify areas of your life that may need adjustment and assist with a plan for improvements. Therapists provide the tools, structure and personal support every step of the way and can guide you to discover and use your strengths, talents and assets. They can help you see if your beliefs about yourself are limiting you and keeping you from getting what you really want.
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Therapy works because:
- Your therapist's main goal is to create a structure that enables you to become your own best advisor.
- Your therapist challenges you and takes the time to find out what winning in life means to you.
- Your therapist is trained to be not only objective, but non-judgmental as well and can help you see all possibilities that exist.
- Your counselor believes you have the answers and is trained to help you use them to your advantage.
- Your therapist is a navigator who keeps you on the course you really want to be on.
- Your counselor can help you discover that you are not your behavior. They understand your behaviors and unconditionally accept you.
- Your counselor is skilled at helping you accept and understand where you are and to assist in developing a plan for change.
- Your counselor wants you to have a life that inspires you and the people around you.
- Your therapist creates a safe environment for positive growth and change.
 Many of us were trained when we were young to be good in areas that were not natural. For example, if you were creatively gifted in art and poor in math, your parents wanted to hire a math tutor instead of an art teacher to embellish your unique gift. When you orient your life around your unique gifts (and we all have them), your life becomes more effortless. Counseling is an opportunity to discover and orient your life around your unique gifts and abilities to create what you want.
Get more done in less time and eliminate the hassle.
You'll be more focused on what you want. By completing tasks and resolving past issues, you will increase your energy and be more productive. You will have the opportunity to create a plan to increase your productivity without causing more stress. You will learn to stop suffering, and tolerating. You will set healthy boundaries so that you stop giving away your power. By learning to take care of you first, everyone else will get what they need.
Communicate more effectively.
Be clear about what you need and communicate it effectively to people around you. Learn to ask for what you really want and need. Learn how to ask the right questions and be direct. Resolve conflicts while creating win-win solutions. Become closer with others. Attract and deepen relationships with quality people. Define what is and is not acceptable.
 Feel better physically and emotionally.
Establish a reserve of time, space and love. Redesign your eating and lifestyle habits. Conquer stress, the silent killer. Stress is created by the expectations of others and ourselves. Learn to manage these expectations to kick the stress habit and increase your vitality and energy. Live longer and healthier!
Learn more effective parenting skills.
Do you remember telling yourself you would never treat your child the way your parents treated you? Have you ever sounded like your parents when dealing with your own child? Learn a more effective way to parent your child that will benefit you both. Learn to parent your child in a way that will empower your child and enable you to resolve the conflict and struggle.
You will be in position to take more worthwhile actions.
Finding out what you really want for yourself is a therapist's first task. You will discover what you really want for yourself. Being clear about your ideal goals enables you to take consistent actions to reach them. You will raise your standards and extend your boundaries. You will set standards that will bring out your best. By learning to prioritize your life, you will learn to say yes when you mean yes, and no when you mean no. You will learn to optimize all areas of your life by making better decisions for yourself, your family and your career.
Create a balanced life that works.
You can learn how to improve your life and increase your effectiveness over time. Establish a balance between home, work, kids and play. You will balance your responsibilities with your wants. When you have certain things in place, balance finds you.
 Develop a path or spiritual connection (or deepen the one you are on).
Discover your personal mission, purpose and vision. Reorient your life exclusively around your true values. Grow from the inside out and open your mind, heart and spirit.
The most valuable investment of your life.
Most of us know the benefits of saving money, a retirement plan or investing in stocks and bonds. Even if we are not saving, we know we would be better off if we did. How many people actually invest in their future happiness, relationships and careers. Not enough! The cost of therapy is a small investment compared to the potential benefits you'll experience. Many medical insurance plans provide for counseling with little or no cost to you.
Improve the quality of your life by challenging outdated beliefs and programming.
As children many of us were taught that pleasing others is more valuable than pleasing ourselves, that following our own desires was selfish. We were told that mistakes are the lessons we learn and grow from, yet many of us were punished for our mistakes in some form. We learned at an early age to turn off certain feelings because they brought us pain. As adults, many of us are still punishing ourselves or avoiding uncomfortable feelings. Blocking the painful or uncomfortable feelings also prohibits us from truly feeling full joy and happiness. A therapist is someone who can guide you to change these old programs and minimize their counterproductive or self-defeating effects. A therapist can assist you in transforming the feelings of failure, worthlessness and hopelessness. You will remember what it is like to feel light, confident, happy and hopeful by re-establishing your heart's desires, hopes and dreams. |
